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Month: January 2015

My Golden Year, A Golden Opportunity

It’s here. Another tick mark on my tally of time. A page turned. I’m a year older.

Yesterday, the 26th of January, 2015, marked the last day of my 26th year. I always dreaded turning twenty-seven, having never really been a seven fan. Then I conversed with one of my dear sister-friends, who pointed out something which flipped my view on the number completely. Sister-friend stated: “You know Destiny, this is your Golden Birthday.”

Mid sentence into inquiring, “What’s a Golden Birthday?” (assuming it was a term of symbolism) I recalled the meaning… it is the birthday when you turn the same age as your birthdate.

Okay, so that is the formalized meaning, though my heart and mind translated it into my most EPIC YEAR OF LIFE yet. And it is. Every day is my Opportunity to make myself my best version. I truly believe I have only gotten better with the chronological passing of age. Better shape. Better focus. Stronger purpose. Better lover. Better friend. Better sister. Better snorter. A more meditative yogi. Greater patience. Greater understanding. Deeper acceptance. And the strongest passion to seize my life and all of my dreams in it — to go for what I love, and inspire others while doing it. If these characteristics come attached to a creeping number, a few lines, wrinkles, and scars etched upon my skin, not to mention some straggling gray hairs, then I landed myself a pretty damn good deal! I feel proud. I feel wiser. And although I may not reside exactly where I thought I would be when I was such and such an age, I journeyed exactly where I was meant for.

I wrote a letter recently to someone near to me who is facing some challenges. The letter was inspired by a lesson taught to me long ago:

My seventh grade Algebra teacher, Miss Jepson, referred to our math tests as Opportunities; they were an Opportunity to demonstrate what we had learned in a given section. It felt empowering when I would enter the classroom to see “Opportunity Friday” scribed on the blackboard. A tweak on an old term inspired me in a new way. At times I have forgotten Miss Jepson’s term, though when I recall its presence in my journey, I am reminded of how pertinent it is to life. Some believe that life ‘tests’ us to see what we are made off. I think life is more comparable to my seventh grade Opportunities, a little more complex yes, a little more trying perhaps, but nonetheless, these so-called tests are Opportunities to demonstrate Faith, Love, Gratitude, Humility, and Kindness.

I know this Opportunity, with its face twisted like a seventh grader encountering the worst of any Algebra problems, has met you holding these virtues, along with Optimism and Wit. It is simply the kind of man you are. You keep a smile on your face, wear any haircut with style, and you move forward with a pep in your step knowing ain’t no thing going to keep [you] down! I admire this about you. Thank you for being an inspiration. Keep moving forward the way you do, digging down deep to reflect on what life is inviting you to learn. These Opportunities hold so much for us when we remember what they are intended for.

I trust you will ebb and flow through this Opportunity with Grace and rebound with greater Poise and Knowledge than you ever possessed before. I love you. Know I carry you continuously in my heart.

Days after I sent this, I experienced validation — serendipity of sorts, on my mat in a Yoga Flow. Our instructor led us with words to the tune of: Life is full of tests; they are Opportunities for us. What we learn in yoga allows us to move with more ease and grace.

Confession: Twenty-six erupted with trials. Twenty-six also opened doors to life accomplishments, passionate goals I checked off my bucket list. I am blessed with Opportunity all around, every day. This Golden Geburtstag of mine is bound to continue in trend, and it is so worth celebrating.

Write Your Future in the New Year

Growing up, my dad taught me a few things:

Never make life-changing decisions on a bad day.

Stealing is like operating from scarcity; it will only ever attract scarcity.

Go for you dreams without a mistress in the wings.

To not be afraid of moving.

Building a strong body is crucial; building a strong mind, essential.

A passion for vocabulary.

Finish the race.

Write down the life you envision living.

I like to write. And many of these concepts I may very well expand on in later scribing. For now though, with the New Year upon us, I would like to focus on the concept lastly mentioned: Write down the life you envision living. My dad informs his clients of the reality that many people take more time to plan their vacations than they do to plan their life. Write down what you wish to do, see, be, feel, and experience. How do you long to be remembered? Write it down. What types of joy do you visualize taking part in? Write it down. And whatever you regret from this past year… learn from it and let it go. As Taylor Swift sings in her hit song, “Shake it off.” I think of it as opening up space for the new in life. Shake it off & let it go — whether it be words said, actions did or undone, or an old material item you have not yet detached yourself from — and make space for the new to enter. The art of letting go was certainly a lesson highlighted in my year of 2014. There is something incomparable to it. Simply freeing.

So in 2015, I am moving into a space of a greater self-awareness, where I live free. When I use the expression ‘live free’ I am referring to a state of mind. A state which is clear and uncluttered, a mind which is meditatively focused, a heart full and loving. A year where my dreams lead the way and carve the path of my daily decisions through divine direction.

I leave you with the following words from Anonymous. Words I love reigniting with:

I am the new year.

I am an unspoiled page in your book of time.

I am your next chance at the art of living. I am your opportunity to practice what you have learned about life during the past twelve months.

All you sought & did not find is hidden in me, waiting for you to search it but with more determination.

All of the good you tried for and did not achieve is mine to grant when you have fewer conflicting desires.

All you dreamed but did not dare do, all you hoped but did not will, all the faith you claimed but did not have — these slumber lightly, waiting to be awakened by the touch of a strong purpose.

I am your opportunity to renew your allegiance to God who said, I make all things new.

I am the New Year.

Whatever you dream for the future, write it down in your book of time.
Prost to 2015!

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